Do you find it challenging to deal with negativity at work, in social settings or with family? Well you are not alone. Unfortunately, dealing with negativity and negative people is something we all have to face more frequently than we would like to. In this age where our main communication channels are through social media, text, and emojis, messages often get lost in translation. As a business owner, I have thought a lot about this because I communicate with a wide variety of people – vendors, customers, service providers, the social media community, and others on a daily basis. And with so many forms of communication, there is a lot of room for misunderstandings to occur. Even my best intentions can be misinterpreted. As communication is something I spend a lot of time thinking about, I wanted to share my thoughts on how to deal with negativity. Along with some tips on how to create “boundaries”, so you don’t feel depleted or defeated.
1. Take a deep breathe and do not respond right away. A lot of these misunderstandings occur because we move too fast. So slow down, try to understand what the situation is, and gather all the information you can before responding.
2. Let your guard down. If we react from a place of negativity, it will just fuel the fire. So as much as it pains you, try to imagine you are speaking to your partner, child, or best friend who you adore. Deal with the confrontation from a place of compassion and just imagine that person means no ill will. (Even if that is not the case.)
3. Be firm, but kind in your response. You do not have to please everyone. You do not have to please everyone. Just be authentic and honest. And be direct, but be respectful. Look, this world has enough a-holes. Don’t allow yourself to become one too. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
4. If all else fails, disengage. It is okay if that person thinks they have won. Let them believe that. The quicker you can let it go, the lighter and happier you will be. And in time you will look back and be grateful that you did not spend more time on the situation than you had to. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
5. There is always wine…
Just remember, stay full of love but don’t put up with bullshit. Namaste.